Updated: Mar 1, 2019

POST FEB 28, 2019

Riding off into the sunset together? Psh! More like a hot, sweaty car ride, stuck in traffic.

I love Disney, but love doesn’t really happen like it does in the movies.... And it’s totally okay!

We as a family, my husband and two kids, love to play cards! One night as we sat around the kitchen table playing a game of Hearts, I asked my husband a question.

All eyes were on him anticipating a reply.

Waiting...waiting...Nothing! Finally, my son piped up, “Dad, are you gonna answer your wife?”

“I did,” he replied.

We all looked at each other puzzled and chuckled. “No, no you didn’t,” we all replied.

Now, I’m a pretty patient human being, but after the 100th time in our marriage of not being responded to I’m feeling quite annoyed! Know what I mean? And I’m wishing there was a private sunset for me to ride off into...alone!

My husband grew up in a family where everyone talked over everyone (well, mostly the women talked over the men) and nobody really listened. He learned at a young age to stop speaking up. And here we are 30 years later, asking him to speak up and he thought he did!

As I get older, I’m quite certain there’s no such thing as a Prince Charming and Cinderella love story. I know ours wasn’t... and isn’t. But I also know I love my husband and he loves me.

Learning to embrace our differences is a huge challenge for me! Is it for you? It’s easy for me to go to anger when I feel hurt and misunderstood, like I did at the kitchen table that night. While my children chuckled, i felt ignored, annoyed and completely invisible.

As I grow, I’m learning to be more patient and seek to understand before I get my knickers in a knot. I have a long way to go, but I’m learning to tolerate the hot, sweaty car rides together. And when we’re stuck in traffic, and I start to get annoyed, I breathe, spend just a little time on the annoyance instead of letting it ruin my life, and attempt to turn my focus back onto the good things in life, like the man sitting next to me that provides for me and would die for me, like the great music on the radio and the adorable baby in the car next to us. Just breathe…and refocus.

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