Naming Your Feelings

Do you know how to name your feelings? 


This is what I see when I wake up without my glasses: things are unclear, and sometimes, I don’t even know what’s in front of me.


This is so true for most of us and our feelings.


They’re fuzzy, at best. Why is that?


As an infant you’re the most feeling you’ll ever be. You have no defenses. You feel it all! And sometimes full measure, like a full-blown temper tantrum.


As we go through life, negative experiences, trials, challenges, difficulties, traumas, begin to shut us down emotionally and physically. We pull in, we don’t cry, we numb out. Over the four decades as a therapist, I’ve found that most people can’t even name their feelings. The sad part is that you’re missing so much of your life by not feeling. 


There are five main feelings, most others are offshoots of these five:

Mad, Sad, Glad, Scared and Ashamed.


Today, as you go through your day, stop on occasion and ask, what am I feeling? Mad? Sad? Glad? Scared? Ashamed? This will start to bring you back to your feelings and help you come alive.

If we’ve gone through really tough stuff we might think that having our feelings might kill us, we might lose control. Yes, you might get mad or very sad. That’s okay. Feelings are just feelings and they won’t kill you. They, too, shall pass. 


It’s time to get clear on your feeling so you can focus on what’s in front of you and start living life to its full! 


Ask yourself right now: Am I Mad? Sad? Glad? Scared? Or Ashamed? If none of them fit then you’re numb. Ask yourself, “If I let myself feel, what would I feel? Mad? Sad? Glad? Scared? Ashamed? 

Do that at least three times a day. You’re on your way to being fully alive and reconnecting with yourself.

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